Have you ever blinked and suddenly found yourself back in your home country after years abroad? That feeling of time flying by is very familiar for many expats. Whether you've been through this situation already or it's just a matter of time, I understand the mixed feelings that come with repatriation. In my own journey, I've experienced returning home twice in the past 28 years, and each time brought its own set of challenges and realizations. Here are five key lessons I learned along the way from my own experience and those of the clients I've supported in their return home:
Lesson 1: Repatriation Isn't Failure
Let's get one thing straight—going back home doesn't mean you failed. Whether it's the end of an assignment, a desire to be closer to family, or a new career opportunity, there are many reasons for returning. Just like when you moved abroad, understanding the reason and purpose behind your move is crucial. Embracing the challenge of leaving your comfort zone and moving abroad is in itself a transformative experience, regardless of what comes next.
Lesson 2: Discovering Personal Growth and Transformation
Returning home makes you realize how much you've grown and changed. The experiences and challenges faced abroad shape us in ways we may not even realize until we're back in familiar surroundings. Remember those "firsts" abroad? Like your first emergency room visit in a foreign language, the first time you went to dinner with a family from a completely different culture, or the first time you left the kids in their new school. These experiences have completely transformed you. Consider who you were when you left and who you are today, and recognize the incredible personal growth you've experienced.
Lesson 3: Life Won't Be the Same as Before you Left
Living abroad is such an intense experience that it often leads to a shift in perspective and priorities. You may find yourself enjoying different activities such as spending more time close to nature, appreciating new aspects of life such as not using your car as much, or making changes in your daily routine such as having lunch with your family. But remember, you're not home on vacation. Reconnecting with old friends may not be as natural as expected, and navigating family dynamics can present its own set of challenges. Acknowledging these changes, for both yourself and those around you, can feel uncomfortable.
Lesson 4: Adjusting to Home Ground is Challenging
Contrary to popular belief, returning to your home country isn't necessarily a walk in the park. Just as you adapted to life abroad, readjusting to your home culture can be equally challenging, especially for those who underestimate the difficulty. Family dynamics, the pace of life, and cultural differences can all catch you off guard. Personally, the first time I went back home, I found it tough to get used to writing in Portuguese again after years of using English. Also, consider that your children's experience and attachment to the country might be very different from yours. They, and perhaps your family, might have a hard time understanding they are not on vacation.
Lesson 5: Expat Experience is Rooted
Your expat journey is already a part of who you are—a fundamental aspect of your identity. Regardless of how long you spend abroad, the skills and perspectives gained are invaluable. Share your experiences, add value to your community, and embrace the unique perspective you bring to the table.
Returning home is often very challenging, especially when it comes to supporting children who may be transitioning back to a familiar yet unfamiliar environment. If you're embarking on the journey of repatriation and seeking guidance, consider exploring Interoots' program tailored to smooth the transition back home. Remember, just as you thrived abroad, you have the resilience and adaptability to thrive in your own country once again. With the right support and guidance, this can be a very positive experience for you and your family.
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